Sunday, April 22, 2018

A Little Change for S&S

I cannot believe it has been over 4 years since I started this blog. I didn’t really know what it would turn into when I started, but I don’t know that I envisioned keeping up with it for this long. When I started blogging, it was a way for me to focus on something positive during a difficult time in my adult life. A lot has changed since then, and I’m grateful to have had this outlet for writing and creating. 

But lately, it has become less about the writing and creativity, and more about the stress and pressure that I (100%) put on myself. I am completely aware that I’m not great at blogging or instagrammaing. While I love brand management as my full-time job, I started this blog as a hobby and an escape from the daily grind. I wanted it to be fun and carefree and as much as I admire the women out there who have the courage to quit their jobs and build strong brands and businesses around their blogs...that isn’t why I started mine. I’ll never be a career blogger. Even if I wanted to, it’s just not in the cards for ol’ Seven & Stitch. 

But that’s OK! I love my full-time career and the opportunities it has given me. I’m good at it. And while — of course — I would love to see my blog and accounts continue to grow, I don’t have the time or true talent to get where I’d like to be. It’s not what I’m good at. 

I have never tried to pretend that I have great style. I wear what I like, and if someone else likes it too, then I love to share. But I also know there are plenty of things that I post or wear and probably get reactions like “she calls herself a style blogger?”. I have friends who are way more stylish and put together than I am. I just have enjoyed sharing and writing.

But lately, that enjoyment has been weaning. I get frustrated and self conscious more than empowered and inspired. I may have a cute outfit here and there that I really do want to share. But I’ve been traveling quite a bit while living in Europe and I hate the self-inflicted pressure of feeling like I have to have a new outfit for every new city. I just like to throw on jeans, a t-shirt, sneakers, and GO. I’m not one of those people who can throw on something cute with little effort. And I get it. It’s not life and death people, it’s a little style blog. I’m not taking myself too seriously.

Anyway, it’s time for a change. I think I realized it might be time to take a fresh look at the ol’ blog when I was in Spain with my husband and he said: ‘This trip has been really fun partly because you haven’t been glued to your phone the whole time.’ He’s incredibly supportive of all of my endeavors, but it’s easy for me to put too much pressure on something that was initially meant to be light and fun. It was never meant to feel like another job on top of the current one that I love and work hard to advance. I’d rather put that energy into something that will truly benefit others, whether it’s work or personal relationships, or volunteering. That is by no means meant to denigrate the girls who do put time into their blogs — so much awareness and joy and self-love can come from these communities and bloggers. But for me, personally, I need to find something with a little more purpose to channel the majority of that energy. And spend less time agonizing over Instagram posts. That’s not to say I’m going to stop posting (#socialmediaaddict) but just that I want to put less pressure on it. 

I’d love to keep sharing my travels and an outfit here or there if I have something I think others would like. But I also just want to soak up this time living and traveling and exploring a new place, without trying to make it look SO amazing. Because, this time in Europe away from my husband and family and everything I know isn’t always easy. It’s hard and lonely and providing a really ripe experience for self growth. But that’s for another blog post. 

Thank you for reading my monologue, thank you for following, thank you for the likes and comments. But for now, I’ll leave the hardcore style inspiration to the gals who really do it well. And let’s just see where it goes!
xo,
Abby

2 comments:

  1. Love this and totally agree!! I’ve been in that boat so many times. Glad to see other people feel the same way!

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    1. Thanks Maggie! It’s a constant back and forth, but at the end of the day it should be fun!

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